Supporting someone else
Practical, gentle guidance for being there for someone.
If they are in immediate danger:
999 / 112How to ask directly and safely
It is okay to ask plainly: 'Are you thinking about suicide?' Research shows this does not put the idea in someone's head — it tells them they are not alone, and that you can handle the answer.
How to listen without judgment
You don't need to fix it. Listen. Reflect back what you hear. Avoid problem-solving, comparing or rushing in with advice. Sit with them.
If they are in immediate danger
Stay with them if it is safe. Call 999 or 112. If they have means of harm nearby, ask gently to move them away. Don't leave them alone if you can help it.
Helping them reach support
Offer to dial the call together, or to be in the room. Samaritans (116 123) and Pieta (1800 247 247) are 24/7. Their GP, out-of-hours GP or mental health team are also options.
What not to say
Avoid: 'Don't be silly', 'Others have it worse', 'You have so much to live for', 'Promise me you won't…'. These can shut conversation down. Instead: 'I'm here. Tell me more. What would help right now?'
Looking after yourself
Supporting someone is heavy. Talk to your own person. Samaritans is for you too. Consider HUGG if you are bereaved by suicide.